If you’re a divorced guy, you don’t need to hear it from me: divorce sucks. Basically every student that attends our weeklong residential program in Los Angeles who’s divorced tells me that it’s the hardest thing he’s ever gone through in his life.What’s more, guys who have been through a divorce generally aren’t in a huge hurry to get back on the horse and start dating again. At least as much as someone who has never been there can.Such a date may be ready to move you with a sob story about how mean, unfaithful their spouse is when the reality may be entirely different.So before you find yourself drawn into an unhappy situation, get the real picture.Divorce is a type of death and requires a process of grief, even when one may have desperately wanted the divorce. Most men live with guilt post-divorce, even when a divorce is more than warranted. BTW, if he's separated versus divorced, consider that a red flag. If he has a hostile relationship with his ex, you can expect a lot more complications than what will already naturally exist when dating or living with a guy who has kids.When there are kids involved, it's a major loss for them. They feel especially powerless and shameful if the mother of their children turned out to be not such a great mother. There's a reason for the expression, "Fools rush in where angels fear to tread." 2. Hostile ex-wives tend to extend their bitterness to the new woman in her ex's life.
Get to know the legal terms Different places have different laws governing marriage and divorce.
Here are a few things to keep in mind when you are dating someone who is going through a divorce.
Make sure you have the facts Sometimes a person might say that he/she is going through a divorce when what they really mean is that they are still considering getting one.
Some love to file court hearings at the drop of a hat and there is the potential for you, if you are living or ultimately married to him, to be pulled into these post-marital dramas. Many of you may have found out the hard way that your new love had lousy boundaries with his ex.
If he has a friendly relationship with his ex, how friendly is it? The ex dropped by, came into the home and maybe even had a key!